Thriving in a new workplace: a guide for survivors of toxic work environments

If you’ve endured a toxic work environment and are stepping into a new role, first, let me say this: you are brave.

For those who haven't experienced this, imagine working in a space where trust is broken, respect is absent, and every day feels like a battle. Surviving and moving on from such an experience is no small feat. 

Starting fresh can be both empowering and daunting. 

Here are some thoughts to help survivors navigate this transition with empathy for themselves and those around them.

Remember: A healthy work environment should be the norm

It’s easy to believe the toxicity you experienced is how all workplaces operate, especially if you were told, “This is just how Brussels is.” But that’s a lie. 

The truth is, empowering teams that value empathy, respect, and genuine support exist—and they are the standard we all deserve. Hold on to this as you settle into your new workplace.

Take it easy

You’ve been through a lot. Give yourself permission to ease into your new role. You don’t need to prove yourself all at once or carry the weight of perfection.

Focus on doing your best, not being the best at the expense of your mental health.

Be mindful of PTSD

It’s normal to carry emotional scars from a toxic work environment. Recognise that you might be hyper-aware or overly cautious in your new workplace. 

Remind yourself that your new colleagues are not your old ones. They don’t share the behaviours or attitudes of those who caused harm in the past. This is a fresh start, and not everyone is out to get you.

Set boundaries from day one

One of the most valuable lessons survivors of toxic environments often learn is the importance of boundaries. 

Use this fresh start to establish yours from the very beginning. Communicate your limits clearly and respectfully. Healthy boundaries are essential for creating a sustainable, positive work experience.

Lead by example

When you feel ready, even in small ways, see if you can set the tone for a positive and enabling work environment. If you encounter injustice and feel able to address it, remember that you have the strength to set an example for others to follow.

One of my former bosses once told me, "When you see how things can be done better, set the example. Don’t wait for others or rely on them to take the lead."

Its OK to be the colleague who demonstrates kindness, sets clear boundaries, and models collaborative behaviour. Now, you no longer have the excuse of being stuck in a toxic environment. Take ownership of the culture you want to help create.

For employers and teams welcoming new joiners

If you’re part of a team that’s welcoming someone new, understand that you don’t know what they’ve been through. Be open to the possibility that their previous workplace may have been toxic.

Show empathy and patience as they adjust to a new environment. Be open to their perspective and strengths they bring, and recognise that they might be navigating lingering PTSD from their past experiences.

Whether you’re a survivor stepping into a new job or a team welcoming a new colleague, the key is mutual understanding and empathy.

Survivors, know that your current employer likely doesn’t know what you’ve been through.

Employers, be mindful that your new team member might be carrying invisible scars.

Editor's Note: A special thank you to my husband, Peter Van Biesen, whose background in psychology has been invaluable in helping me shape these thoughts and offer guidance for survivors of toxic work environments. This has now officially become a Sunday night family affair, with passionate conversations around what will help and what won’t.